When we think of discipline we usually think of punishment. How many of our parents or grandparents exclusively used a “whipping” as a way to punish their children? Child care experts now advise that physical punishment is not the best mode of discipline, but few of us have really been trained to use effective alternative methods. Although punishment is often used in disciplining children, it is actually a very small part. Good discipline will not just offer rewards and punishments for behavior, it will actually shape behavior.
There are many books available that talk about discipline and behavior modification techniques. This book is not meant to replace any of those books, methods or theories. This book is meant to be a companion piece to whatever method you choose to adopt. I found as I read books and articles on parenting and discipline methods they advised over and over to set down ground rules, be firm and consistent, yet loving. But with each book and article I was left with developing the actual, “how to” implement them with my family. There were a lot of wonderful ideas out there, but none of them that I could just pull off the shelf and use. I also found that there were charts and guides that had been developed and offered for sale, but none of them quite fit my needs. This book, and the forms available to readers at the website www.dontgetmadgetbusy.com, put at your disposal a large array of useful, tested practices that are easily adapted to your family and their needs.
Please note that I have done several things in the wording of this book simply to make my job as author easier. First of all, you will notice that I have used gender words interchangeably. I may use him one time, her the next and his or hers the time after that. This is simply to ease the flow of the book and to add variety. I am well aware that children and parents come in two genders, so please be aware that these methods will work for both genders, regardless of the wording in each particular part.
Next, I have written this book as if each child were being parented by a traditional two parent married couple. Once again, this has been done only for ease of writing. I am well aware that many children grow up quite successfully in a variety of different family configurations. If your family is not headed by a traditional two parent married couple, please be aware that these methods will be just as effective. Some of the recommendations may need to be adjusted to fit your particular situation; however all should be applicable for all who want to parent a child.